Love is beautiful, but people often ignored its complexity, especially when two people walk from love, marriage, marriage, discovers suddenly appeared in the problem, the person.
Ms. Zhang is encountered marital problems.
Ms. Zhang, female, 43 years old, married. Husband Chen 44 years old, two people’s university students, married with one child, 19 years, this already 18 years old, is facing the university entrance exam.
First came the consultation and not ms. Zhang, but he’s husband, Mr. Chen. A consulting, Chen just walked sigh. Although suits, noble, a successful personage, however, facial expression is very tired, sometimes with finger tight wrinkly eyebrows rubbing.
Assistant to help him down, I let him cup hot water, then take a rest, he entered counseling.
Just sit down, Mr. Chen elevated into soon began to tell his two: “my wife and I make so much that I tried many solutions are not effective. Korea teacher, to tell you the truth, I in another counseling agencies are doing consultancy, good times, not what you do, I hope to do consulting last effort, if there is no possibility of improvement, I plan to divorce her. My last counselor has advised me and her divorce, but after 20 years of couples, less than, I don’t want to go divorce this path.”
I comfort Chen calm down, tell me what happened in detail.
“My wife and I are university alumni, high, grade one than her school again when she met and fraternity, at that time, she beautiful, considerate, suddenly I was attracted to the nurse. Then I’ll keep her letter, so we love. After graduating from college, dispite her family’s against the married without me, I am rural poor families, she is, the urban population and family, so she superior conditions family opposed. I am very moved and commitment to her whole life happiness. After she thrifty, although material shortage, but we had a very happy. In the 1990s, in order to make economic tide of the own world, in order to we can live a better life, my resignation from the former unit to shenzhen development alone… what are now the blessed, but she doesn’t enjoy all day, I was outside, so paranoid, as long as I have the woman in her, she kept calling to confirm my whereabouts, if I’m busy answering the phone, she hesitated to even drive where I personally validation, now I have no matter what hand clutched the mobile phone, lest delay or omission of her information, otherwise she would give me make a teacher, you say me… it’s life but how?”
I listen to the misery of the husband, then asked, “Mr. Chen, you can honestly tell me your wife on your doubts whether, have derailed the matter?”
Mr. Chen smiled, said: “my career and I have been so busy, love my wife, how can have an affair! She is staying home, nothing fancy. I let her go out to get a job, not for money, just a matter, she is not to go, but playing mahjong every home do nothing else.”
I’d like to know your wife’s specific conditions, can you describe in detail?
“My wife born intellectual family, ChuLa rather quietly elegant, versatile, the previous work has her own thoughts, independent strong. It’s her charm in the college attracted my notice. We got married, her work while at home, she is a good wife gentleness good and wise, regardless of what I have always very dependable. My career, after she quit off the main focus and for taking care of the children, and she put a child care is very good, I seldom for children, children of this year has three aspects, excellent grades, she paid for the family, let me from inner gratitude. Children start school campus her most of the time, and I can work with a long, because of staying home, no matter one day and to help children playing mahjong, Mrs. Rich to produce so many thing. She besides maintain oneself, not reading every day, except play mahjong, no other hobbies.
Mr. Chen then helplessly say: “just started she asked me to take her attend some important occasions, I will be very glad to take her away. But her dress and behavior, and the environment is uncoordinated. Teacher, you see me this identity, to tell you the truth, she did make me feel embarrassed, either, so then I don’t take her away, again afraid she make me to lie…”
My heart bottom, tell him to his wife, next to take over.
The second consultation, Mr. Chen has brought his lover ms. Zhang. Her facial features and shape are fair, but sorrow, eye red face, long wavy hair also some clenched fists messy, implicit and anger. This time, I first and ms. Zhang into counseling. I just asked 1: “you and your lover’s marriage, now the problem is?” Ms. Zhang immediately tears fell off.
Ms. Zhang side with my crying for her husband, in recent years, the lack of care and avoid always together, no longer tell his whereabouts, only by constantly BiWen, he would tell me reluctant to husband and wife, now he is not interested in sex, a healthy big man could not sexual desire for? He must be in the outside with another woman, I now live every day, which fear him day and fear, I divorce. He had good to me, love me, but now he fell in love with another woman, a good many times I saw him in the office flirting with other women, for shame! All men have no a good thing, all men are rich.
After an hour of consultation process, I almost didn’t insert, ms. Zhang is kept crying in the content, so are three: 1, the husband of her how well before. 2, the husband now rich, become like
